Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Conquering fear

I hate to be afraid.

I hate to worry.

I generally am confrontational in order to alleviate those two things.

Confrontation...hmmm...well, it doesn't have to be between two people, sometimes it is between a person and a well known fear...or a perceived scary unknown thing or event.

One of my motto's in life is "you have to hug the monster and get on with it".

What does that mean? It means confronting the thing you fear. Face it head on...get it over with...done...fait accompli.

Why? Because fear paralyzes us. It keeps us from being who we can be. Fear makes us accept mediocrity. Fear fosters complacency, encourages procrastination...it bolsters anger...it teaches us to hate.

Fear really is the worst four letter word.

So how to deal with it?

Get knowledge of what you fear...build skills and then apply those skills. Rehearse in your mind until you have a clear picture and routine of yourself against the fear.

Self talk is powerful. Remember to create postive self affirmations...

write them out, speak them outloud and speak them often. Your mind tells your body how to react. Your mind tells your body what to believe.

Don't let your fear win, don't give in/don't give up...for if you give in, what is the result? More fear...intensified...again and again.

Speak of your fear. You will be surprised at folks responses...you will be surprised at how others can help you...how you can laugh about it.....minimize it...ball it up and let it go.

What is your fear? What holds you back? What would it take for you to forge ahead and break out of being average?

Life is short...giddy up.

“You must do the thing that you fear until the fear of that thing becomes no more.”
(Brian Tracy)

1 comment:

Drillrider said...

I found this article helpful:


Fear in riding is an issue at my age (50+) since after a fall, it takes so much longer to recover.

I recently sold a gelding because he continually was "scary" and unpredictable. I decided it just wasn't worth it!